These may be the three most important words in the English language. Parents say it to their children. Lovers say it to each other. Teachers say it to students. Every now and again some may even say it strangers.
Some people find it hard to say. I don't know, I think because of the way I was raised it comes so naturally for me. Whenever I feel its needed in someones life I share these words. As I watch so many wandering aimlessly through their lives I often find myself wondering if anyone ever said it to them. I feel like yelling it from the rooftops sometimes. Especially if they are young people. Just chillin' not knowing what to do with themselves. Not realizing if only someone had just mentioned it. Things might be different. If only someone cared enough about them, or set that example for them.I remember when my parents first said it to me; I was complaining as youngstas sometimes will about things I wanted. Not needed ,wanted. My father called me into the den sat me down and said. "GET A JOB".
It stung a little at first I admit. So used to having my hand out( and having it filled). But hey, it was what I needed to hear.
You want to eat...get a job
You want a house...get a job
You want a car...get a job
You want nice things..get a job
Simple huh???
12 comments:
Hi Sis,
I'm visiting for the 1st time, but those words hit near and dear to my home. In my family, self-sufficiency is promoted.
We believe in "don't depend on us to get you where you need to go--you'll be disappointed. Make your path and when we help you, you'll view it as a blessing!"
when my 19yr old daughter complain about $$, i tell her these 7 words, and they work like a charm:
Oh, you need to get another job!
Cool blog-i'm adding you to my hitlist! :)
LOL
It's funny that someone had to tell you to get a job.
As soon as the day came when I was elgible to get a working permit I went to school with all my papers and applied for one.
My father was very reluctant to me getting a job, for some reason. I think it had to do with the fact that I would be out of the house and he may or may not know where I "really" am.
(Missed you much)
Ivent- Yes this blog came about, because I see too many folks people daily without jobs. Thanks for stopping,do come again!
Jenelly- Hey you! It is funny because I did the same thing but my parents wouldn't allow me to work while I was in school. That all changed when I went to college...LOL
By the way missed you too. Welcome back!
I'm not knocking your parents method of upbrining, but I think that not allowing children to work while in Jr High or HS sets them up for a future pattern.
I started working at 14 and live entirely on my own at 22, I have a full time job and take care of myself and my mom (sometimes)
My younger bro didn't start working until almost 18 and he hardly has a job now, infact he doesn't because he's in college. As if that means he shouldn't work. I worked all through college!
(Im upset with how they brought him up and I went into this a long time ago in an old blog entry, I don't even know where it is.... lemme see if I can find it......)
JenellyBean
I am gonna add one word to that statement for my oldest son "GET A FULL-TIME JOB!" He is stuck in the "part-time job get by and hip hop for life syndrome."
Jenelly- I disagree, although my parents did not allow me to work I still developed a strong work ethic. What do you say about people who have worked since they were able to and they are unable to hold jobs long? In your brothers case I think he is just lazy, because there are jobs available. That does not fall on your parents because he is a grown man. He needs to realize that.
Lyre- A lot of people are stuck there.
ok,
Ihope i can really do this. I know i can. Just kidding. Better get ready for me.
woedy
thanks for stopping by
this is my first comment here. I agree with previous commenter. A job is a terrible thing to waste.
ROFL! Wendy you set it up and broke it down.
Love the comments too!
I believe there's a certain maturity that should be taken into consideration when allowing your child to work.
I've been working since 14/15...and I forged my mother's name on the work permit (she suffered from alcoholism so it wasn't hard to do--she's sober 10 yrs!) and worked my butt off. Schoolwork was like a hobby for me--it was fun. Working as a teen was carthartic for me. I didn't have to think about my home life...so i put my all into it. And was able to successfully merge both school/work into my life.
On the other hand...
My son, 16, wants to work. however, his school work suffers enough as it is (he hates homework) I allowed him to play football and his work suffered even more, so that meant he had to come off the team. I advised him that his FIRST JOB is school. When I see him handle his first job(with consistency) successfully, then he'll be able to get a second job.
So it's looking like he'll be working in the summer. Not during school.
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