Saturday, February 14, 2009

Dear Momma-Funny Valentines

Happy Valentines Day!

This post is going to be a bit unusual. This is not a post for my mother. Although I love her to death.I am involved with someone and happy with him. When we first started seeing each other we mentioned some things about our families. He did admit that his mother was crazy. ( yeah, I know we all have a crazy in the fam). I have my own drama with a family member so I know. But I never in a million years thought he really meant crazy. Straight jacket, need to be locked away for your own good CRAZY.

With out going into too much detail, I will say the events of this past week have shocked me. It began with a simple valentines gift and ended with me being called every thing, every thing but a child of God. I have never been involved with anyone and not gotten along with their parents. Mothers love me. Even after break ups they keep in touch. Wonder what the hell is wrong with their children, why'd they let me get away. So for this to be the case now is really new to me. I knew he was a mommas boy, an only child. But, DAMN his mother ( Who by the way was so in love with me last week) flipped so hard I thought I was in a remake of THE EXORCIST. And although this woman disrespected me in the worst way, I held my ground. I took the high road and what good would come from beating up an old woman?

The only thing that bothers me now is where will this lead us?( him and I) because although I can forgive. I will never forget.(Not even when her other personality resurfaces). And you can't really ask someone to choose between their own nutty as a fruitcake mother and you. Because it's his Mother.The struggle continues...

Enjoy this day, Stay Blessed!

5 comments:

Blu Jewel said...

Damn Wendy that's some crazy mess for real. I know some parents get attached to their kids, but this seems almost obsessive. I could be ready too much into this, but that's how it seems. What did he say about her antics? You're leaving a lot to chance from being around her, so maybe you can limit any time spent in her company.

I hope you neither of you have to make a choice about who goes or stays.

Love to live; live to love!

Jenell : BlakIzBeautyful said...

OMG!

Wendy, did you really not d anything to cause her to flip out??? Nothing??

I understand how the parents of s/o's can be. My soon to be mother in law has her moments, but nothing like this!

Wendy said...

Hey Blu,
Not to worry, that was the last time this woman will have to say anything to me. He apologized for his mother's behavior and said he warned me. I believe she suffers from depression. But like I said this will not happen again. I hope we can get through it.If not I will have to move on.

Jenelly!!! hey gurlie.Where have you been???? I swear I did absolutely nothing to this woman. I truly believe now she was actually jealous of the fact that her son bought me a Valentines day gift. I will never have anymore dealings with her(EVER). I was too shocked to deal with it. But trust and believe, it won't happen again.

lyre said...

Not sure how old Mother in law is but she may have that chemical imbalance. Give her a break. She might be embarrassed next week.

Believer said...

I'm with Lyre if the son warned you it's for good reason.

I hope you find a way to stay together and make it work.

There are no perfect solutions, but being committed in a relationship does mean that on occasion you will deal with nonsense and in some rare instances pure craziness.

I would advise to be prayed up around the mother! ;)